Motivation starts with parents helping their kids identify and label privileges correctly. Once kids learn the difference between rights and privileges, they are more motivated to earn such privileges. These kids are less likely to have a sense of entitlement, or to be hurt in the long run by that sense of entitlement.
Teach Kids Coping Skills by Modeling Correct Behaviors “I guess in the end, it doesn’t matter what we wanted. What matters is what we chose to do with the things we had.” – Mira Grant, Deadline In my previous article I discussed Two Steps to Help Your Kid Develop Coping Skills, in this article we’ll discuss how parents can […]
In my experience with families, we mainly focus on what to do and how to do it successfully in order to see results. From time to time, however, the question “What should we avoid doing?” comes up. I have compiled a short list of some “Don’ts” that I hope you find helpful.
Today we’ll discuss listening to older kids, which can be a little complex. You can help him/her feel heard…It’s never too early or too late to start honoring and respecting your children’s point of view. This is the best way to model for them how to honor and respect your point of view.
Kids are naturally good at noticing and taking advantage of discrepancies. It is amazing how quickly even a two-year-old can pick up on the fact that his parents don’t agree about something.
It is essential that you and your parenting partner (from now on referred to as a “co-parent”) set aside some time every day (just a few minutes) to communicate about your kid’s needs and update each other.
Parenting takes teamwork, it takes working together.
Some single parents have told me it can be very lonely and scary at times to raise a child alone; however, sometimes they can appreciate the fact that they don’t have partners would undermine them.
I’d like to offer some practical parenting solutions that will help you be heard and not just feel heard.
First of all, what your kids don’t realize is that your were a kid once.
It’s natural and quite common to pay more attention to your kids when they’re being unruly and not paying attention to you. In fact, you may find it’s easy to ignore them when they’re going about their business and doing what they are supposed to be doing.
Following directions, respecting the rules and following through with their responsibilities are your basic wishes when it comes to defining “compliance” for your kids.
Every day your kids face choices: to behave or misbehave (and to comply or be non-compliant). If your kids are busy making good choices each day, then they won’t have time to make poor choices!
Dr. Shirin Sherkat Psy.D. will guide you in your efforts to avoid power struggles with your kids as she gives you strategies that will help:
Reduce talking back
Motivate your kids
Result in order in your home
Reduce defiance
Increase enjoyment in your family
